CAN WE TALK FOR A MINUTE……
8th July 2017
Every now and then I really want to write a personal blog on where I’m at in my life, dreams and relationships. It’s a big reason I created FlipYourWig and I hope can inspire you lot too.
Let’s start with relationships so it’s the first time I can say I have 4 amazing girls in my life that I consider my besties. This is quite a revelation for me as since my teens I have been that girl who hangs with the boys with one maybe two girls as close friends. I never quite had the whole #GirlGang to hang or confide with. I don’t think it’s because I’m not a girl’s girl, I just haven’t met many that share my passions or understand my energy.
I’m super obsessed with my work and being creative. For whatever reason most of the females I have been close to have been more about social life, travelling and having boy-friends. While my close male friends have been…… I guess more like me, super focused on work and not so hung up on their personal life. I’m not saying either is right or wrong, it’s just different.
All four of these amazing girl I have in my life right now have huge hearts, kindness and are so supportive. Two are older then me and have been such a strength for me when I have moments I feel lost, drained and insecure. Having friends that are older is so good for me as I feel their life experience and hustle totally inspires and guides me.
The other two girls are also on similar self discovery journeys as me, so we sort of help each other and are learning together. I will say that all the women that I’m close to have some similar traits including being smart, loyal and genuine, also super funny.
Relationships are so important, who you spend the most time with influences the choices you make sometimes without you realising. As for love it’s so complicated, overwhelming and heartbreaking. I’m not ready to really share that side of my life on my blog just yet. I will say this though when I love it’s for ‘ever after’ and I’m not the type that goes out on the weekend and cops of with different guys.
I will say this though however beautiful and incredible you feel with the one you give your heart too, remember to not lose yourself. Love should enrich your life and not make you feel sad or compromised in any way. There is a big difference between taking it turns to pick a movie you watch from you changing fundamental things that make you you.
I’m currently working on being cool with my own company. It might sound like a strange thing to say but can you remember the last time you stayed in by yourself and actually enjoyed it without that feeling of FOMO??
I spoke to one of my girls today she was sooooo stressed and has had an intense week at work. Its Gay Pride today plus Wireless Festival rather then go out she has chosen a day in chilling solo. As I type this she is probably in her PJ’s watching ‘Wendy Williams Show’ no doubt…. while she eats something yummy!!
I know at some point she will feel guilty and lazy ( she has her own battles to deal with) go for a walk or the gym which will make her feel like her day ended right.
It’s important to know what puts you in your ‘happy place’. I’m still figuring it out but I will say music, movies and podcasts always lift my mood and when I do a great workout I feel awesome! (Been ages since I have done that if I’m honest)
Hope all is good in your world and my words connect or support you. It truly breaks my heart when I think about anyone feeling shit and having no-one to talk to or hang with. There are so many awesome things you can do to bring happiness in your life and achieve all the shit you want!! Be kinder and more supportive to yourself and look out for each other.
Max xxx
