20th May 2018
What a start to the weekend already. Congrats to Harry and Meghan who got married and wow what a ceremony.
Did you watch?? What did you think? I thought it was beautiful, inspiring and Meghan’s Givenchy Dress was everything!
Also noticed Victoria, Priyanka and Amal came to slay. Did you know there is a dress code at Royal weddings..No shoulders out, wear hats and don’t dress over the top ( too sexy, flamboyant or trying to up-stage the bride and groom basically)
The only think I found odd at the wedding was a couple of Harry’s ex’s attending … #Awks wonder if Meghan knows who they really are???
Anyway I wish them all the happiness in the world and love them as a couple.
How many times have you seen the #IWokeUpLikeThis??? How many times have your fav girls used it and even you??
It’s normally a load of crap let’s be honest. People spending hours getting that selfie to look like they just woke up when really it took a lot of grooming, practicing and filters.
I saw this vid by accident on my timeline that model/entrepreneur Sarah Ashcroft posted. She shares the truth behind her face and how she doesn’t wake up like this. I respect her for being honest and sharing what she does to look like this. I know a lot of people especially famous girls that you guys love (not telling who) that have regular botox, lip fillers and all sorts to live up to whatever it takes to look flawless!
My personal journey with beauty has been up and down and I have never really felt totally comfortable in my skin, face or body, think I’m getting better now though. I used to compare myself to others all the time, I blame the fact I follow way too many Victoria Secrets models on IG as one of my main reasons why. So last year I decided to unfollow a whole load which defo helped, but I do still follow Gigi, Bella, Jourdan, Taylor, Kendall, Shanina… and a few others #NeedToUnfollowMore or else I see bikinis, abs and great faces all the time.
I remember interviewing model Joan Smalls and she told me she trains every day and really looks after herself so she too doesn’t #WakeUpLikeThat none of the VS girls do!
When was the last time you took a pic of yourself, with friends or family that you didn’t touch up or filter?
I think it’s soooo addictive, you tell yourself its’s fun and that’s all, but can we be real we all know it’s so much more. Think about it ….we get used to seeing ourselves in these filters and not as who we really are. I’m not saying it’s not fun or pretty, but it’s more harmful then positive in the long run.
We have to learn to love ourselves, I mean it however cringy it sounds. I want you to look in the mirror whether it’s naked or fully clothed and say ‘I Love you’. It won’t happen overnight especially if you have low self esteem and in general feel yucky about yourself but I have some tips that work for me. Here goes:
1 Beauty pamper day, minimum 1 day a week. You do a facial, mask. leave in hair treatment, nails, pedi. End with a beautiful bath with relaxing salts or a long beautiful shower. Moisturise your whole body and face after, it will feel wonderful.
2 Restyle and remix your wardrobe. Honestly there are incredible pieces that we forgot we had. Spend a couple of hours ideally a chill day and try on different things with each other. Denim skirts looks so hot with great blouses and fitted tees. Team a cute dress with those trainers or school style lace ups you forgot you had.
3 Hair change it up!! Get the tongs out and invest in some heated rollers. If you wear it down all the time, put it up in a high edgy bun. Make sure you use a great shine spray and the leave in treatment earlier in the week during your pamper day will have your hair looking and feeling so glossy and healthy. Also a blow-dry makes me feel pretty as hell. I’m crap at doing it myself, so I treat myself to my Stylist Jess who does the best ones ever. A good blow-dry lasts 2 -4 days and will cost around £25- £30 depending on the length of your hair and where you go.
4 Listening to Marie Forleo Podcasts always make me feel better about myself. She reminds me that it’s just as important to feel you are super smart and contributing to the world in a positive way alongside feeling hot as fuck. She also has me learning and wanting to challenge myself more. I love that feeling of learning something so awesome that can change my life. Ted talks, Tim Ferriss, Oprah and ‘How I Built This’ all great podcasts packed of inspiration too.
5 Do something for yourself. This could be pampering but I mean make time for you. Be present for you? Learn to enjoy your own company. It’s not sad and doesn’t make you a loser. I have learnt to go out and eat alone and watch a movie. It started because of my job, I have to review films in the daytime and my mates are all at work so I end up going alone. But then I remember one afternoon I felt shitty and couldn’t shift this feeling of despair and sadness. All my mates were not around so I got myself together and headed to my fav cinema and was nervous as hell to go and buy a ticket for me by myself. But I did it and I totally enjoyed the experience and have done it many times since. Also go with my friends but it’s awesome to enjoy time with yourself and be comfortable with it.
6 Gym workouts can be stressful and need a lot of motivation but I have to say a Yoga class or Pilates will make you feel amazing. It’s still a great workout for your body but also about relaxing and being around like minded people for about 50 min. Try it and I bet you love it and will make new friends.
7 Meditation is one of the best things to help you feel more focused and happier. Also there is a lot of research to prove that it helps with anxiety, depression, panic attacks and stress. Loads of great apps to pick from. It’s tough to silence your mind and breath in away to totally silence your mind and body, but once you nail it watch how much it improves your life.
Start with 5 min a day sit on your bed, sofa anywhere you feel relaxed and can be alone. Close your eyes and breath in and out slowly through your nose. Make all the thoughts in your mind stop for that time, just focus on your breathing. Practice, practice, practice and it will get easier. We can do it together. I have been doing it for 7 days and it’s tough but I feel so much better already and find it a great way to start and end my day.
8 Start putting your phone and laptop in your living room not in your bedroom. You won’t realise this till you start doing it, having technology always so close means you are never really present. Think while you watch a show on TV you are scrolling on your phone. When you are out for dinner, your checking it constantly, when you are in bed it is flashing next to you. There is nothing that can’t wait for a hour or two?? The less time you spend on Instagram the better. You will spend less time comparing your beauty with fake beauty on your timeline and start enjoying your life more. Plus feel a lot prettier and comfortable in your own skin.
9 Treat yourself to something new. This depends on your budget so don’t go mad. Book a holiday with a bestie or that family member you love being around. A new perfume, new make-up, a new pair of killer boots, basically something you will love and enjoy. I love getting a new fragrance and make-up. It’s ok to enjoy material things come on why not. Boys I know you love trainers, clothes, gadgets and trips away like us.
10 Have a mantra, I sort of mentioned it earlier. Write down a couple of things and memorise them. I want you to daily look in the mirror an say it to yourself. Saying it out loud and putting it out in the universe will make it not only happen but also you to believe and live like that more.
Mine currently has been inspired by a book I have been reading ‘The Power Of Intention’ by Dr Wayne Dyer, here it is.